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Im your best buddi lets play9/13/2023 ![]() ![]() Having these principles and boundaries for yourself about how you act in your relationships is a helpful way to shift your focus back to what you can do, rather than what you can’t. Focusing on yourself: I’ll set boundaries when others say rude things to me.Focusing on the other person: She’s a crap friend because she sends me mean texts.Instead of honing in on your friend’s actions ( focusing on the other person), you could think about how you want to respond to specific behaviours ( focusing on yourself). Read more about learning to accept things that are out of your control. It takes a lot of energy to think so much about someone whose actions you can’t change. You might spend a lot of time flipping through your memories of them, scrolling through their social media, or asking other friends and family about them. When it feels like someone is intentionally being hurtful, it’s easy to get caught up in focusing on them. Think about your own behaviour Figure out what you can and can’t control You could try talking to a family member or trusted adult to get another perspective. For example, if they’re not replying to your messages and it seems like they’re ignoring you, they could just be busy or may have just forgotten to reply.ĭo you think your friend is intentionally trying to hurt you or put you down? Do you think they would stop or change what they’re doing if you let them know that it’s hurting you? It’s possible that your friend actually doesn’t know that the way they’re treating you is hurtful. Would you just like the behaviour to stop, or would you like an apology, too?ĭo you think your friend will change if you tell them how you’re feeling?.Do you like being friends with this person?.What don’t you like about how your friend treats you? How does it make you feel?.Try writing your thoughts down to help make things clearer. Getting your head around what’s going on will help you to identify what you want and decide what to do next. Get your head around the situation How do you feel and what do you want?
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